Remember as a kid your parents saying, “This is going to hurt me more than it’s going to hurt you.” As a kid you wanted to say, “Really? Because it looks like my butt is the one getting spanked.” While there are varying ideas on disciplining out there, most parents agree that there is something within us that at times longs to not have to discipline our kids for several reasons.
Here they are:
1. Not wanting to feel rejected by our child
2. We Don’t want to be bothered with stopping what we’re doing
3. There is an underlying frustration that what we’ve been doing isn’t working
4. We’d rather the verbal threat work without having to act
The reasons are many…..but the issue is the same. When we avoid disciplining our children out of our own issues (time, annoyance, our own insecurities, wanting to be the “cool” parent) we deny them the basic boundaries of life. These boundaries provide the basic framework for their future behavior. Our heavenly dad models this for each parent:
“For the Lord disciplines the one he loves,and chastises every son whom he receives.” Hebrews 12:6 (ESV)
Love and discipline are not mutually exclusive. If we love our children we’ll provide boundaries for them and hold them accountable.
Loving, direct discipline now hopefully means healthier adults later.
(Your turn! Take an opportunity to share your experience with your parents or even as a parent yourself in this area. Share and “like” this post if you found it helpful. Thanks!)