>Nothing quite matches the feeling when someone close to us fails us. It draws out of us a myriad of emotions: anger, frustration, confusion, sadness….you get the idea. And when we feel like someone is letting us down or has failed us completely we many times immediately distance ourselves from them because we don’t want to deal it out. We don’t want to have to confront and call someone out on the carpet or bring correction where it’s needed. We can begin to avoid and even ignore them completely. And Depending on the severity of the wound it can sometimes take a while for us to bounce back. Being hurt is normal and we should allow ourselves the right grieve that which has been lost. With our trust for them on life support however, and us wanting so badly to stay ticked off at them we can set up a scenario for a “perfect storm” of bitterness to take up residence in our heart. Don’t let it. Bitterness and unforgiveness are bedfellows and do not play nice together.
Yes, own how you feel. Yes, confront the person with the offence but don’t hold onto it. “Forgive as Christ has forgiven you.” Surely you can think of a time when you’ve failed someone. A friend, a family member…..God. Forgiveness doesn’t always mean reconciliation. Forgiveness means giving up your right for pay back. Leave that to God. He’s much better at it.