Over the last several years that I have worked with young adults a recurring theme seems to resound in my conversations with this wonderful generation. “I need someone I can learn about life from.” “I’d like someone that would meet with me and show me how to grow in all parts of my life: spiritually, in my career, my relationships.” “I need a mentor.”
I’m not at all surprised by the clamoring call for mentors spilling out of these hearts and minds. This generation is coming from broken and bruised families at a rate we can’t even begin to imagine. To former generations this generation seems outwardly aloof and unscathed by divorce, abuse and parental uninvolvement. Inwardly however, they are angry, hurting and wanting to know and be known by anyone they can have genuine connection with.
When they say they want a mentor they’re not talking just about someone to just disciple them spiritually. In a lot of ways they are looking for a life coach, needing direction for every area of their life: career, romantic and platonic relationships, conflict management….etc. I would say reparenting is needed because parenting wasn’t provided.
I cannot overstate the need here. The Church and society as a whole will be dramatically shaped by this generation in the coming years. Without this need for mentorship being addressed we will be left with a generation that fills in the empty blanks with all the wrong answers. The church must rise to the occasion in being a lighthouse of relational mentorship to the Millennial generation if we are to see them be everything God desires them to be. I wrote about the struggle for many to see themselves as mentors here.
To young adults I would say your generation in turn needs to begin to seek out Christian mentors instead of waiting for someone or an organization to provide them. Maturity is becoming self-aware of your needs and the needs of others and responding appropriately. Pray, seek God, watch the lives of others you respect and approach them about being a mentor in your life.
Your turn! What does mentorship look like in your life? Have you been able to invest in someone? Who invested in you? Share below.