Self-pity is useless. More than that it’s dangerous.
Here’s what I mean. Self-pity is just an inverted version of pride. It’s purely “self” focused, choosing to focus on our poor circumstance and/or condition and ignoring God’s all supporting role in our lives. Marinating in our thoughts of despair paralyzes us from moving forward because we continue to fixate on our inadequacy to change the situation instead of looking to God as our provider.
The apostle Paul shares with us the proper perspective of how we should view hardship:
“9 But he (Jesus) said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. 10 For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” 2 Corinthians 12:9–10 (ESV)
Jesus tells Paul that He will give him the grace and power to endure his suffering. Paul writes in light of that truth that instead of our suffering being an end unto itself, it’s actually the very thing that moves us to depend more on Jesus. For the Christian this is where the power of Christ is found: boasting in our weakness. This highlights our complete dependence on Jesus. In doing so God gives us the grace to endure and matures us in the process. Hear this truth: God never wastes suffering!
Thanks be to God who gives us the victory over self-pity through Jesus Christ! Move forward!